Sunday, November 5, 2017

National Adoption Month 2017

November is National Adoption Month. Throughout the month, I will be sharing more of our story & my heart here & on our Instagram account @theadventuresofbabyk 
If you are impacted by adoption & want to share your story through social media this November, there is an amazing adoption community on Instagram. This month, two accounts that I follow @knittogetherbyadoption & @lifetimehealingllc are leading adoption conversations by providing daily prompts & hashtags. Everyday they will be posting new adoption topics for you to post about.  I am excited to post daily along with the prompts & freestyle a bit as well. Today I’m going to kick off by sharing about the big picture of adoption.  

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In a perfect world, there wouldn’t be a need for adoption. But we don’t live in a perfect world do we? Our world is filled with brokenness...& adoption is born from brokenness. This is something we must acknowledge to fully understand the whole picture of adoption. 
But how amazing is it that God steps into the broken messes of this world with us? I am so thankful He brings beauty from ashes & leads us on the path of redemption & healing! Adoption is born from brokenness, but it is also filled with beauty & blessings. I experience the beauty & blessings of my two precious children every single day because of adoption. 


The big picture of adoption for us personally is that adoption made us a family. Adoption allowed two brave women the option of giving their children life & providing them with a stable, loving home. Adoption allowed Cary & I one of greatest privileges & honors in life - the gift of becoming parents + raising children. Adoption brought Izzy & Noah together to become siblings + built in best friends. The sight of my two little loves laughing together still often takes my breath away. 💞 
Adoption is emotional, complex & every story is different. In adoption, there are deep losses & there are sweet gains. Adoption is truly a lifelong journey of grief + joy. Adoption has marked our hearts & family forever! We have experienced & learned a lot, yet we still have so so much to learn. 

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If you have questions about adoption/our story, feel free to email me (tylergordykoch@gmail.com) or send me a DM through Instagram @theadventuresofbabyk. Throughout the month of November, I will address your questions in my posts, stories & maybe even in my first live Instagram video! I would love to have your questions ahead of time for the live video, so please let me know which topics you’d most like to hear about! I am really looking forward to learning from others impacted by adoption this month. Y’all can search the hashtags #knittogetherbyadoption & #LifetimeHealingAdoption on Instagram to read other adoption perspectives & stories.

Thanks for following along!
With love,
Tyler 

Monday, October 23, 2017

Adoption Documentary: I Lived on Parker Ave

Last night Cary & I attended a screening of the adoption documentary I Lived On Parker Ave. The film beautifully tells the story of how one brave decision impacted many lives. The focus of the documentary is David’s journey to meet his birth parents. 

The documentary was amazing & so moving. I think my favorite part of the film & David’s story is the unconditional support & love his family has given him throughout his life, specifically in his journey to seek answers & meet his birth parents. I also love how the documentary shows the honest emotions & journey of all sides of the adoption triad. 

I Lived On Parker Ave comes out March 8, 2018 & will be available to view for free online! Click here to watch the trailer. I love contributing to & spreading the word about adoption resources.  I know this film will be a great resource & inspire a lot of good & important conversations about adoption topics.


Check out the website for more information on the documentary:

Thank you David & family for sharing your personal story to spread a beautiful message! 


With love,
Tyler 

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Faith As Small As a Mustard Seed


Can we take a minute to talk about how adorable this sign is?! Our friend Gina created it for us & I love it so much! We worked with her to customize it & she absolutely nailed it. Gina has been crafting & woodworking for years. She recently opened an Etsy shop! Here's the link: WanderingHartDesign
She will be adding more listing to her shop soon & can create pretty much anything you have in mind. Y'all be sure to check her out! I’m looking forward to having her create a custom sign for the baby’s nursery! :) 


I am excited to share the inspiration behind our sign. About a year ago, as we started to talk about & make a plan for revisiting fertility efforts again, the Lord put the word "hope" on my heart. Throughout the past year, it has been the word He has continued to speak to me. 

God put hope on my heart in three-fold. He wanted me to truly learn to place my hope in Him. He wanted me to become hopeful that we would be able to conceive. He wanted to remind me to keep sharing my heart, our story & His goodness, because He was wanted to continue to use us to spread His hope to others. 

 In the months leading up to our fertility appointment (after a 3 year break from doctors) I wrestled with fear, doubt & anxiety. I didn't want to jump back into the world of TTC only to find my heart crushed & disappointed again. In those emotional moments, God always met me & softly whispered, "hope."  And so I did. When I became overwhelmed I would remind myself my eternal hope is in Him. I started hoping for what could go right, and less time worrying about what could go wrong. Whenever I heard a story of someone dealing with infertility conceiving, instead of brushing it off as, "well, that's not our situation", I started to find hope from those stories. I began to allow myself to hope this new journey would lead to a pregnancy. 

In May, I had surgery to remove endometriosis. A few weeks later, my doctor cleared us to start trying to conceive again. I found myself feeling more hopeful & excited about trying to conceive than I had been in years. At the same time, doubt & fear fought hard to rise up in my heart & mind. Back in June, before we conceived, I wrote a post about the journey God had taken me on to get to a place where I was genuinely hopeful about conceiving. To read my emotional & raw post, click here

One morning, as I was praying & having a really honest conversation with God about believing for a biological baby, He put Matthew 17:20 on my heart:
"You don't have enough faith," Jesus told them. "I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it would move. Nothing would be impossible." 

Boom. So convicting & just what I needed to hear! That day I made a choice to let go of doubt & step forward in faith. I humbly handed God my tiny mustard seed of faith & believed that He would be faithful to move mountains for us.

The next month, after five years of infertility, we found out we were pregnant! I’ve written about our initial reaction to the pregnancy news here & here
One of the first things I read was that at 4 weeks pregnant, our precious baby was only as big as a poppy seed. Immediately I began to cry as I remembered the verse the Lord had given me. He took my tiny seed of faith & moved big mountains to bring us our third little miracle baby. We are amazed & so grateful! I pray our story will continue to bring hope to those in their own seasons of waiting.  

If you're struggling with hoping & believing for your own miracle, I totally get it. Infertility & adoption are emotional & complex. There are so many valid fears, deep hurts & big questions that come along with the process. 
I want to encourage you today to have that honest conversation with God about where you are in your journey of hope & faith. Ask Him to step in the gap of your unbelief & help you to begin to trust Him again. I don’t know all the ends & outs of your story or what He has planned for you, but I do know walking with Him through the struggles as well as the triumphs will bring healing, hope, peace & joy back into your life. 


Today I encourage each of you to step out in faith today to put your own little mustard seeds of hope & faith in His hands. 

I love looking at the Hope sign hanging up in our home! It is such a powerful & sweet reminder of the journey of faith God has taken us on to add our three precious babies to our family. If you’re interested in your own custom sign or want to order this specific sign, be sure to check out Wandering Hart design on Etsy to order: 

 Pregnancy update: I am 18 weeks pregnant now & baby is doing great. As always, thank you for continuing to follow along & celebrate with our family!

With love,
Tyler