Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas, y'all! 
Hope everyone has an amazing Christmas celebrating this wonderful holiday with loved ones. 
I can hardly believe it's been 6 weeks since I've written a post! The past few weeks have been the most exciting, chaotic, wonderful, exhausting, incredible & blessed weeks of our entire adoption journey. So much happened all at once, just like I had a feeling it would. I'm sorry I haven't been able to keep y'all in the loop more during this exciting time. I have been itching to write but haven't had the time. 
Although life has been crazy, our hearts are full of joy & thankfulness. We are so grateful for all God has done & are praising Him for His provision & blessings for our family. 
Here's a little update on what's been going on in our world over the past month & a half… 
We hosted an Adoption Auction November 16th-19th that allowed us to meet our fundraising goal! Praise God, so thankful for everyone who has supported us through this journey to fundraise & prepare for Baby K! 
A week after we met our fundraising goal, we got "the call" telling us that we had been chosen as parents by a birth mother in Georgia due in February! Finally receiving that call was one the most exciting & surreal moments for us! I'm going to write an entire post about our whole "matched" experience sometime soon :) 
Cary's football team not only made the playoffs this year, but we also went all the way to the Grey Cup! A few days after getting the news that Baby K was finally "on the way", we flew across Canada to Vancouver for the CFL championship game. Even though the Ticats didn't win, playing in the Grey Cup was still an amazing experience.
Immediately after the Grey Cup, we moved out of our Canadian apartment, packed our car full of our possessions & drove down to Georgia to meet Baby K's birth mother. The entire experience of meeting her was amazing & a time we will cherish forever. We were able to attend an ultrasound appointment & find out in person that Baby K is a GIRL! What a gift! Cary & I are both thrilled about sweet baby girl & cannot wait to meet her. We were also able to get the know the birth mother as well as meet her family & get to love on them. We are so thankful for the opportunity to have that experience & make those memories. It was more than we had hoped & prayed for, God is good! There's still a lot that needs to fall into place before baby girl comes home with us. Please be praying over all of the details!
Finally, we made our way HOME for the offseason! We are so happy to be back in Louisiana with our family & friends. Y'all have been so sweet to welcome us back with such celebration & excitement. 
As I've been reflecting on our joyful homecoming, I cannot help but remember the painful time we were going through at this time last year. This exact week last year, after almost a year of trying to have a baby, we received our infertility diagnosis & went through a really rough few months.  I am thankful that God drew near to us during this time. Even when we couldn't see Him working & felt abandoned, He was there & He cared. In March we felt God's urging us to quickly start the adoption process. In May our precious little girl was being formed in her mother's womb. It's so beautiful to remember that at that exact time, our love for the child we knew God was bringing into our family was in full bloom! What beautiful timing He has…

I am so thankful He has been faithful throughout our long journey to parenthood. I am thankful that the pain of last Christmas is covered in joy this Christmas. I am thankful for new hope, new life & new plans. I am so incredibly thankful every single moment for the woman carrying baby girl. I'm so thankful for the grace & love of God for covering our entire adoption journey. I am thankful for adoption & the redemption it brings. I am amazed & grateful for the real reason for the Christmas season- baby Jesus, born in a manger to a faith filled young Mary & adoptive father Joseph…
God came down as baby to redeem the world with amazing love…that is why we sing & celebrate this wonderful season. Let us praise God for the incredible gift HE is & the eternal hope He brings to this broken world. 
Merry Christmas friends. May your holidays be filled with joy, peace & awe as you celebrate the King of Kings with the ones you love. 
Thank you so much for your prayers & support as we continue to walk out this adoption adventure! :) 


Christmas Blessings,
Tyler, Cary & Baby K! 

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Bringing Home Baby K Video


Cary & I are SO excited to finally share this amazing video of our adoption journey! 
This video was put together for us by the Ticats media team in honor of National Adoption Month. 
My sweet friend Brodie Lawson pitched the idea for this video to us a few months ago. Brodie & her team did such a great job capturing our story. We are so thankful for all of the hard work they put into creating this awesome video for us. 

 
We are grateful for the support we've been shown through the Ticats as well as from friends & fans across the CFL! We have felt so blessed & supported on our journey to bring home Baby K! 



Link to video on the Ticat website:

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To read more about specific ways to participate in our fundraising efforts, see our blog post: 

Thanks for following along in our exciting journey!!!


Nearing the Fundraising Finishline!

Hi friends! 

As most of you know, we are in the process of adopting Baby K!!! We are so excited & are hoping to be matched with our baby any day.

Were you aware that November is National Adoption Month?! 
I love reading about how adoption has touched the lives of others. It's been so encouraging to see all of the posts on social media celebrating adoption over the past week & a half. I'm thankful for the connections I've made in the online adoption community that have allowed me to learn so much about this process. 

 As you probably know, over the past 7 months, we have been fundraising! I know y'all are probably so tired of seeing all of our fundraising posts by now! Hang in there with us just a little bit longer ;) 
If you check out our "Fundraising Thermometer" on the right hand side of the blog, you will see we are getting REALLY close to reaching our fundraising goal (we've raised 83% of our goal)! 
We are hoping & praying that by the end of this month, we will have met our goal. 

If you are new to our blog, and want to read our original Adoption Announcement, Click Here: 
Our Adoption Announcement 

To learn more about why we are fundraising, Click Here:
Fundraising for Baby K!

The point of this post is to update y'all on our fundraising progress & let you know what fundraisers we will have going on over the next few weeks. We also wanted to thank all of the generous people who have blessed us immensely over the past 7 months.

We know how busy life gets around this time of the year with the Holidays coming up, so we wanted to break everything down for those of you who are interested in helping us reach our fundraising goal! 
For those of you interested in participating, we have 4 active fundraisers going on this month! 

Here's the breakdown:  

1.  ADOPTION AUCTION 
We will be holding an *ONLINE* Auction through Facebook starting this Sunday, Nov 16th & ending on Wednesday Nov 19th. 

A few details:
We have worked really hard on this fundraiser & are hoping for it to be a huge success! 
We have collected over 100 AMAZING items for our auction! We are in the process of adding items to the event page & inviting others to join the event. 

In order for this event to be a success, we need to involve A LOT of people! We are hoping that by the end of the auction, every single item will have at least 1 bid! 
Help us Bring Home Baby K by joining the event, spreading the word & bidding on a few items!!! 

To read the full Auction details & to join this BIG event, click here: 
Auction Event Page

2. T-SHIRT FUNDRAISER  

We just launched our t-shirt fundraiser again! 
We kept the original "Love Has No Limits" design, just changed the colors! If you missed this fundraiser the first go-round, here's your chance to get a shirt + support our adoption! 

Click the link to purchase a #teambabyk t-shirt! 
Pass the link along to anyone & everyone! :) This fundraiser will last 20 days & will be ending November 30th. 

There are 5 different styles of t-shirts available (unisex, ladies, youth, long sleeved & sweatshirt) so be sure to check out the link for more information! 

3. PENDANT NECKLACE FUNDRAISER
Necklaces are $15 each & come on a 24" ball chain

Check out the "Pendant Necklace" tab at the top of the blog for details on this fundraiser! Please place necklace orders no later than Monday, November 17th! 

4. PUZZLE FUNDRAISER  

Finally, I want to share about our puzzle fundraiser. 
God has provided abundantly for us through this fundraiser. 
 We are so thankful for every single person who has donated to our adoption fundraising. We have been encouraged & blown away by the friends, family and even strangers who have been a part of our adoption journey so far! 

Here's an update on this fundraiser: 
So far, our puzzle represents almost $8,000 of donations & is 91% complete. 
281 out of 300 puzzle pieces have been claimed by donations! 
That means we only have 23 pieces left until our puzzle is complete! 
1 puzzle piece = $30, so 19 puzzle pieces = $570! 

If you want to read more about our puzzle fundraiser & how to participate click here:
Puzzle Fundraiser


Updated puzzle picture:
*This is the most recent puzzle picture but it's not totally updated! There are a few people we still need to add!

Each of the people represented on this puzzle have touched our hearts in an amazing way! We will always cherish this puzzle as a reminder of God's goodness, faithfulness & provision & the generosity & selfless of people in our lives. Our sweet Baby K will always be able to see the tangible way that our friends & family lived out the Gospel & helped bring him/her home!

How YOU can help us finish our fundraising efforts: 

1. Pray! Pray over the details of our adoption, over our fundraising & pray about how you can be involved. Pray that others would be reached by our story & for God to be glorified! We have no doubt that God is going to provide for our family! We believe He will help us meet our goal by inspiring others to join our journey.

2. Share! Share this post on social media sites & with friends & family & anyone & everyone you think might want to contribute! 
I will be posting a lot on social media over the next couple of weeks, you can help us by reposting & sharing. We feel at this point, we have reached almost everyone in our online community with our story, & need help spreading our story to others outside of our reach.   

*A note of PRAISE!* 
We are INCREDIBLY THANKFUL & overwhelmed by the response we've received to our fundraising while we've been away in Canada.

Online community y'all have been amazing! 
I cannot believe our blog has over 41,000 views. Thank you all so much for taking part in all of our various online fundraisers, keeping up with our story, & praying for us over the past couple of months! 

Fundraising & walking through the adoption process while away from home has been difficult at times for us. Sometimes, it's been hard not to feel limited in our efforts & get discouraged by thinking that if we were living at home, we would have more fundraising opportunities.

Thankfully God has been faithful & steadfast in His reminders to us that He is ultimate provider & is not bound by circumstance! He has continuously spoken to us that He has us HERE, in Canada, in this very situation, in this specific time in our lives, in our adoption journey & in this point in our fundraising. He has chosen & ordained this time in our lives for His purposes! The support we have received from so many of YOU is beautiful, humbling & overwhelming. Thank you! 

We are encouraged by what God has done & will do through His people!
 We are choosing to continue to step out in faith and in prayer to ask others to join our journey!  
We cannot raise this money for our adoption alone, but God has assured as that we can do it with His guidance & the help of the body of Christ. 


 Would you consider participating in some way? 


Thanks so much for checking in. Y'all are amazing!

~The Kochs

"Consider the ravens: they neither sow nor reap, they have neither storehouse nor barn, and yet God feeds them. Of how much more value are you than the birds!" ~Luke 12:24 

"And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus." ~Philippians 4:19

"Now to him who by his power within us is able to do far more than we ever dare to ask or imagine—to him be glory in the Church through Jesus Christ for ever and ever, amen!"
~Ephesians 3:20-21

Friday, November 7, 2014

Chaos & Peace

Waiting. 
…the most prevalent theme in our adoption journey lately...

I wasn't planning on sharing this, but felt like I was supposed to. We are currently waiting to hear news about a situation we were recently told about. For 2 days my stomach has literally been in knots. I feel sick. I’m exhausted & exhilarated all at once. 
I’ve felt like this a lot over the past 8 months in our adoption journey but never to this extreme before.

“Could this be it? It is finally our time? Is this what you have for us, God? Am I going to be brokenhearted again? How do I keep all of these emotions in check? Help me to praise you even if the answer is no. Jesus, calm my heart, bring me peace, be with me in the waiting…”

I’ve whispered so many prayers over the past 48 hours. I find myself wide-awake in the middle of night, words on my lips. As soon as I open my eyes in the morning, I am uttering, “please Lord”…prayers & tears come spilling out in the middle of writing an email, looking in the mirror, making coffee.
I find myself literally holding my breath at random moments throughout the day. Every time I get an email, my heart skips a beat & I get an adrenalin shot of fear & hope all at once. Sitting in silence simply isn’t an option. My thoughts are too loud. Fear, hope, anticipation, faith, preparing for disappointment…my heart & mind are a huge swirl of different thoughts & emotions.

What’s crazy that in the midst of the chaos there is also peace…that’s the power of God working in me. This peace does not come from me, & is only possible because of the Holy Spirit. Over the past couple of days, I’ve heard God whisper His word to my heart. When I focus on His truth, the peace that comes over me is truly supernatural. I’m thankful He intervenes, is so present in our daily lives & cares about every detail of our lives.

(After writing this post, I felt like I was supposed to come back & add this: Maybe someone reading this needs to hear that God loves you. He is a present God. He is real & He desires to have a relationship with you. Do you have the peace of God in your life? Have you ever heard Him speak loving promises to your heart? Do you know Him in this intimate & real way? We were created for relationship with Him. He desires to know you. Call out to Him. The Bible says that all we have to do to enter into a relationship with God is to call upon His name, believe, repent of our sins & ask Him to change us. No matter what we've done He is always faithful to forgive us, restore us & love us unconditionally.  
 "If you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved. As the Scripture says, "Anyone who trusts in him will never be put to shame." For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile--the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him, for, "Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved."
~Romans 10:9-13)

These are a few of the Bible verses I’ve had on repeat in my head:

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
~Philippians 4:6-7

Then Jesus said, "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.
~Matthew 11:28

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
~Jeremiah 29:11

What are some verses that help you get through hard days?

Over the past couple of months, waiting has seemed to be the main theme in our journey, but I can see so many other little themes & big lessons too. Through the waiting, God is working & teaching & changing us. It's not easy but we know this growth is for our good & His purposes.

Would you be praying for us? The wait is very hard…but we believe God’s timing is perfect. Please pray for our hearts to rest in His peace. We trust Him regardless of whatever answer we receive, but it’s not easy. We need the prayers of many to help lift us up.


Little Baby K, will you ever know how much we love you?! I sure hope so. You are so worth every second of this hope & heartbreak. We love you & cannot wait to meet you!
 (Photo by Eva Cranford Photography)

I'm so thankful for the blessing of my husband. He's been my rock every.single.day.
(Photo by Carolynn Seibert Photography) 

Thanks for continuing to "press in" with us…Your support, encouragement & prayers mean the world. 

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

National Adoption Month: Our Story

November is National Adoption Month! 
I am encouraged and challenged by all of the stories I've seen shared through social media about adoption over the past couple of days.  

I thought I would share a little post about the call God has placed on our family to adopt. 

Adoption is something I have always felt passionate about. I wasn't very educated on the process before we started our own journey, but there's always been a burning desire in my heart concerning adoption. As I've mentioned a few times before, Cary and I always knew adoption was going to be a part of the way God grew our family. We thought adopting would happen later down the line for our family, but God had a different timeline in mind for us. After being diagnosed with infertility & going through over a year of heartbreak & confusion concerning the future of our family, we began to realize God was calling us to adoption sooner than we expected. 
As soon as we made the decision to adopt, I felt something inside me come alive. It sounds strange but I don't know how else to describe it…there was a strong confirmation & a sweet celebration in my heart that our decision to adopt was "right". It was like God brought me through all of the pain of infertility so that I could clearly see His plan for us concerning adoption & say "yes" when He opened the door. 

I don't fully understand why we have to deal with bearing the painful cross of infertility, but I do believe God is using it for His glory. He has used this journey as an invitation to for us cling to Him & to be faithful in trusting Him to provide for our family. We cannot control our fertility, but we can be faithful with how we respond to our diagnosis. Right now, we know without a doubt that God asked us to put fertility treatment on hold. We know that He is bringing a baby to us right now through the gift of adoption. If we hadn't had any trouble conceiving, we would probably be pregnant with a second child right now & no where near considering adoption. The amount of love I have for the baby God is bringing into our family right now through adoption is unbelievable & indescribable. I cannot imagine missing out on this beautiful & precious gift… 

Even though our journey to parenthood has been difficult, I am extremely thankful for God's plan. I know when we meet our sweet Baby K, all of the heartache & the long wait will be worth it. God has used & is continuing to use this journey to open our eyes to His plan for our family. It's a lot different than we planned, but I don't believe it will be any less beautiful. I know God is using our journey to parenthood to establish a powerful testimony of His provision, a deep understanding of the gift of family & a passion for bringing children into forever families in our hearts. God has also strengthened our marriage immensely through this journey.It's been so beautiful to walk alongside Cary in this journey & see his passion for adoption grow. 
I know that zeal we have for adoption comes from our heavenly Father. God is passionate about adoption. Because He lives in us, His passions are our passions. God is devoted to seeing each of His children loved & cared for. He is all about love & redemption. God loves bringing hope & healing where there is despair & hurt. He has rescued us & restored us to Himself (He has adopted us!!!). He wants to use us to help Him rescue others. God's heart is for US to be His hands and feet to this hurting world. This is the call He has placed on His children. 
Every person who has entered into a relationship with Him is called to love others like He loves. Every single one of us can make a difference in the lives of children across the globe. I personally know God has a call on our lives to not only adopt, but to also be a voice for adoption & advocate for it. Our journey with adoption has opened my eyes to love more, give more & do more for babies & children who are in need of forever families. I'm not sure exactly what God has in store for us, but I can't wait to see where He leads our family as we learn more about how to live out His heart for adoption.

You might not be called to adopt or foster but there are so many other ways to make a lasting difference in the lives of so many sweet little ones. You can donate, volunteer, educate & pray on behalf of adoption. I hope you will be challenged this month to set aside time in prayer to ask God how He wants to use you concerning adoption. There are so many resources out there on adoption. Do some research, spend some time in prayer & make a plan to be more involved! :)

We are SO thankful for each person who has blessed us immensely in our own journey to bringing Baby K home. The support we've received is beautiful. Y'all are truly living out the gospel! God is so faithful to provide for us & He's doing it through your generous hearts. We are humbled & grateful… 

 "God's definition of what matters is pretty straightforward. He measures our lives by how we love."
 ~Francis Chan 

"Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world." ~James 1:27

"My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you." ~John 15:12


Photo Credit: Carolynn Seibert Photography 

Can't wait to be matched with our little pumpkin! 

Please keep us in your prayers! 


Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Choosing Open Adoption

Hey y’all! 
For the past couple of months I’ve been meaning to write a post on why we have chosen to have an open adoption. I finally got around to writing it! This is just a summary of our thoughts on open adoption, but I hope it will give you some insight into our journey & into open adoption.

*I realize that we are very new to adoption and all of the complexities involved. I’m writing about this topic from our own experiences and choices. We’ve made our decisions based on multiple factors. We have done our own research, been given adoption resources, prayed about this decision and talked to people about their experience with adoption. I know many of you may have different experiences or opinions about open adoption. Although I believe this is the best decision for our family, I realize it might not always be the best choice for others.

Our definition of “open adoption” goes something like this:
Open adoption means we will enter into a commitment with Baby K’s birth mother to be a part of each others' lives. In a way, an open adoption is like marriage. Our family and the birth family will be connected because of our love for Baby K. Through open adoption, Baby K’s birth mother will become a part of our “family.” We will be making this commitment to open adoption and our baby’s birth mother in hopes that Baby K will have the opportunity to have a connection with his/her biological family. Open adoption is very flexible but it basically means that we are committed to communicating regularly with our baby's birth mother & family throughout his/her life. The amount of communication we have with Baby K’s birth family will most likely change over the years based on each of our needs, circumstances, etc. We know that, more than likely, Baby K’s birth mother will come from a different background than us. She may have different beliefs, lead a different kind of lifestyle, make choices we don’t always understand or agree with, etc. Regardless, we will show her love, welcome her into our lives & work through our differences to build a relationship. Just like most relationships, we realize the relationship with Baby K’s birth family will require work, communication, and empathy. We know it will not be easy, but we believe it will be worth it.

A few side notes on open adoption:
Open adoption is not legally binding. We enter into this “commitment” in good faith that the other party will put in the work to maintain the open relationship. On our end, we are committed to maintaining a positive and healthy relationship with Baby K’s birth family. If at any point we feel like this relationship is causing harm to Baby K or our family, we will be free to distance ourselves. However, contrary to the way the media often portrays open adoption, this type of scenario is unlikely to occur.
Open adoption is NOT co-parenting. Once our baby comes home with us and the adoption is finalized, Cary and I will legally be Baby K’s parents. We will make the decisions about how to parent Baby K like every other family does with their child. Our birth mother will understand that parenting is our role, not hers.

Why open adoption?
There are a many reasons why we are hoping to have an open relationship with Baby K’s birth mother. The main reason is because we truly believe that an open relationship can be beneficial to all involved.

Baby K is obviously our top priority and there are many reasons we think an open adoption could benefit him/her. I will only talk about a few of the reasons here.
It is our heart’s desire for Baby K to grow up with an understanding of how much he/she is valued and loved. We believe having an open adoption will not only allow our Baby to experience this from us, but to also from his/her biological mother. We know that our child will have questions about their biological family. We want to always do our best to help our child get the answers his/her little heart and mind needs. We realize that as he/she grows older, the complexity of these questions will increase. We hope that by having an open adoption, Baby K will have a better opportunity to have his/her questions answered directly and truthfully.
By having an open relationship, our child will know his/her biological mother (and potentially know the biological father) and will not have to imagine or fantasize about their birth parents. We realize our baby might have other biological siblings and if that were the case, we would love to be able to help them connect whenever they are ready to do so. Another positive benefit of open adoption is that Baby K will have access to his/her medical and genetic history.

We believe an open relationship can also be beneficial to the birth mother/parents and biological family of our baby. We know that adoption is bittersweet as our joy over welcoming Baby K home will be the birth mother’s greatest heartache. We hope that having an open adoption will allow Baby K’s birth mother to experience healing. By having an open relationship, the birth mother can experience confirmation that she made the best decision in choosing adoption for her child. Studies show that birth mothers in an open adoption work through normal feelings of grief much quicker than birth mothers in a confidential adoption do. An open adoption gives the birth mother an opportunity to continue to love her child from afar as well as have a direct voice in explaining to the child why she choose adoption.

We feel like as Baby K’s parents, we will also benefit from an open adoption. We will be able to build a relationship with Baby K’s birth mom that is built on a mutual love for Baby K, trust and understanding of one another. We will have the opportunity to learn about who our birth mother is as a person…her likes & dislikes, talents, dreams, hobbies, if she is left or right handed, etc. We think it will be so cool to be able to make connections between our child's & his/her birth mother’s mannerisms, attributes & similarities. 
An open adoption will allow us to love on the woman who choose life for our child life and blessed our family in such a monumental way. When praying for the relationship with Baby K’s birth mother, this verse has come to my heart, “We love because He first loved us” 1 John 4:19. The desire of our hearts is to love on Baby K’s birth mother as we have been loved by God: unconditionally. Cary and I have both given our lives to God and His love has radically changed us. We believe the Lord calls us as Christians to truly love those who enter our lives. We are praying that Baby K’s birth mother would also experience this type of life-changing love from the Lord & that she would enter into a relationship with Him.

I hope this summary of our heart for open adopting gave you some insight into our decision. Like I said above, we realize an open adoption will not always be easy by any means…but we absolutely believe it will be worth it. As long as we are all committed to loving Baby K and doing what is best for him/her above all else, the relationship can flourish! :)

Would you be praying for us as we prepare to be matched with, meet, develop a relationship with & love on Baby K’s birth mother?!
Since we have not been matched yet, we are not completely certain that our adoption will be open as the decision depends not only on us but also on the birth mother. Would you be praying that this type of loving, healthy & beneficial relationship with Baby K’s birth mother will be possible?
And while you’re at it, will you ask the Lord to move on our behalf & match us with Baby K quickly? Our hearts are yearning for news of our little one.

We know the Lord has big plans for our family & we cannot wait to see how He knits everything together.
  
Thank y’all so much for following our journey! Please keep us in your thoughts & prayers.

 Photo credit: Carolynn Seibert Photography
Photo credit: Carolynn Seibert Photography 

Photo credit: Eva Cranford Photography 

 "If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.
God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus.  There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
We love because he first loved us. Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister." ~1 John 4:15-21

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Adoption Auction Donations Needed!!!




Hey friends! 

We will be hosting a Facebook Adoption Auction mid November! In order for this auction to be successful, we need YOUR help!!! 

If you're interested in donating an item/product/service to 

our auction or if you have questions, please email me ASAP at tylergordykoch@gmail.com for more information! 

Help us spread the word!

Thank you!!!


Tuesday, October 14, 2014

A Journey of Faith

Adoption is hard. Adoption is beautiful. Adoption is messy. 
Adoption.is.worth.it.

This process can be extremely overwhelming. It can also be unbelievably fulfilling. Today is a hard day in my journey with adoption. I was just washing dishes and as I stood there at the sink, tears starting flowing and words starting coming to my mind/heart. So I sat down to write this post in hopes that it will make sense, give ya'll an insight into our journey and maybe even relate to your own journey of faith.
The unknown weighs heavy on my soul. I am feeling scared, confused and torn about the future of my family. On this journey, I have been challenged. My faith has been tested. I have been stretched emotionally. I have reexamined my views on what makes a “family.” I have thought about and read about God’s heart for family, sacrifice and redemption. I have questioned my dreams, my motives and my heart. 
I know these challenges are part of God’s will and journey for me. God is teaching me much about His heart, His vision and His plan. A lot of the time it looks a lot different than mine. I’m tempted to put limitations on what I think I can handle. Maybe I’ve held onto my idea of what our family will look like a little too much. Maybe in doing so I have allowed part of my heart to harden. And maybe I haven’t allowed myself to hear God’s voice as clearly… 
These are the types of things that are on my mind today. Are they easy to deal with? No, but I believe they are necessary. I believe God is working with a purpose in this difficult time in our adoption journey. He is asking me to live what I believe. My faith is so important to me, but lately I have found myself frozen with fear and full of uncertainty. He is asking me to trust Him and to let Him guide us in growing our family. It won’t always be easy but I do believe it will be worth it. Taking risks are hard but God often asks His people to walk in faith through the hard and ugly for the sake of His name and His purpose. He uses the messy to bring His hope, love and restoration to this lost, broken and hurting world. 
How can we expect God to perform miracles for us if we aren't willing to put ourselves in the position to need a miracle? God has always had a way in turning ashes to beauty. Scripture is a testament to that…so today I’m diving into His word and coming before Him with an honest but open and trusting heart. I am saying, “Lord, lead me. Help me walk through the hard times with your grace, strength and vision.”

Would you be praying for us? We would appreciate it so much.

Prayer requests & an update on where we are in the process:

We are expecting to be living in Canada for about another month & a half. We should be home by end of November or the first week of December at the latest, if we go to the Grey Cup. I am hoping we will be back for Thanksgiving, which also falls on my Birthday this year. At the same time, it would be incredible for my husband’s football team, the Hamilton Tiger-cats, to go to the Grey Cup (which is basically the Superbowl of the CFL). 
We are open to a baby born as early as the first week of December. We’re praying we will have more time than that to prepare for the arrival of Baby K after moving back home (to Louisiana where we live during the offseason). For us, January seems like the ideal month for Baby K to be born. However, we know that God’s plans are better than ours and we are believing that we will be able to make whatever due date He gives us work! Every day we are checking our email (I check it about 100 times a day with my heart pounding every time) & waiting to hear from our consultants about potential situations. Please pray that when the right situation comes along we will have peace and confidence in sending our book to the birthmother. 
It is the desire of our hearts to be matched with our baby SOON. We are presenting our requests to God and asking that He would meet us where we are… We are praying the details would start falling into place. Pray that God’s mighty hand would be all over every detail in this process from now until when Baby K is officially ours. Pray for our waiting hearts…pray for God to strengthen our faith and our understanding of His plan. 
Pray for our continued fundraising efforts. We have been blessed by so many and are truly blown away and forever thankful. We are getting close to reaching our fundraising goal, only $6,000 away!!! 
We believe in the power of prayer and nothing would mean more to us than for you to join us in lifting up these requests. It's been 6 months since we announced our adoption & 7 months since we started this process. This journey continues to be whirlwind but we know Baby K is worth it all.


Thanks for praying & supporting us as we journey on!


Hear my cry, O God; listen to my prayer. From the ends of the earth I call to you, I call as my heart grows faint; lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For you have been my refuge, a strong tower against the foe. I long to dwell in your tent forever and take refuge in the shelter of your wings. 
~Psalm 61:1-4

Juno girl is so excited about Baby K! 
Photo credit to Eva Cranford Photography 

 Photo credit to Eva Cranford Photography

Photo credit to Carolynn Seibert Photography