Sunday, November 5, 2017

National Adoption Month 2017

November is National Adoption Month. Throughout the month, I will be sharing more of our story & my heart here & on our Instagram account @theadventuresofbabyk 
If you are impacted by adoption & want to share your story through social media this November, there is an amazing adoption community on Instagram. This month, two accounts that I follow @knittogetherbyadoption & @lifetimehealingllc are leading adoption conversations by providing daily prompts & hashtags. Everyday they will be posting new adoption topics for you to post about.  I am excited to post daily along with the prompts & freestyle a bit as well. Today I’m going to kick off by sharing about the big picture of adoption.  

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In a perfect world, there wouldn’t be a need for adoption. But we don’t live in a perfect world do we? Our world is filled with brokenness...& adoption is born from brokenness. This is something we must acknowledge to fully understand the whole picture of adoption. 
But how amazing is it that God steps into the broken messes of this world with us? I am so thankful He brings beauty from ashes & leads us on the path of redemption & healing! Adoption is born from brokenness, but it is also filled with beauty & blessings. I experience the beauty & blessings of my two precious children every single day because of adoption. 


The big picture of adoption for us personally is that adoption made us a family. Adoption allowed two brave women the option of giving their children life & providing them with a stable, loving home. Adoption allowed Cary & I one of greatest privileges & honors in life - the gift of becoming parents + raising children. Adoption brought Izzy & Noah together to become siblings + built in best friends. The sight of my two little loves laughing together still often takes my breath away. 💞 
Adoption is emotional, complex & every story is different. In adoption, there are deep losses & there are sweet gains. Adoption is truly a lifelong journey of grief + joy. Adoption has marked our hearts & family forever! We have experienced & learned a lot, yet we still have so so much to learn. 

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If you have questions about adoption/our story, feel free to email me (tylergordykoch@gmail.com) or send me a DM through Instagram @theadventuresofbabyk. Throughout the month of November, I will address your questions in my posts, stories & maybe even in my first live Instagram video! I would love to have your questions ahead of time for the live video, so please let me know which topics you’d most like to hear about! I am really looking forward to learning from others impacted by adoption this month. Y’all can search the hashtags #knittogetherbyadoption & #LifetimeHealingAdoption on Instagram to read other adoption perspectives & stories.

Thanks for following along!
With love,
Tyler 

Monday, October 23, 2017

Adoption Documentary: I Lived on Parker Ave

Last night Cary & I attended a screening of the adoption documentary I Lived On Parker Ave. The film beautifully tells the story of how one brave decision impacted many lives. The focus of the documentary is David’s journey to meet his birth parents. 

The documentary was amazing & so moving. I think my favorite part of the film & David’s story is the unconditional support & love his family has given him throughout his life, specifically in his journey to seek answers & meet his birth parents. I also love how the documentary shows the honest emotions & journey of all sides of the adoption triad. 

I Lived On Parker Ave comes out March 8, 2018 & will be available to view for free online! Click here to watch the trailer. I love contributing to & spreading the word about adoption resources.  I know this film will be a great resource & inspire a lot of good & important conversations about adoption topics.


Check out the website for more information on the documentary:

Thank you David & family for sharing your personal story to spread a beautiful message! 


With love,
Tyler 

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Faith As Small As a Mustard Seed


Can we take a minute to talk about how adorable this sign is?! Our friend Gina created it for us & I love it so much! We worked with her to customize it & she absolutely nailed it. Gina has been crafting & woodworking for years. She recently opened an Etsy shop! Here's the link: WanderingHartDesign
She will be adding more listing to her shop soon & can create pretty much anything you have in mind. Y'all be sure to check her out! I’m looking forward to having her create a custom sign for the baby’s nursery! :) 


I am excited to share the inspiration behind our sign. About a year ago, as we started to talk about & make a plan for revisiting fertility efforts again, the Lord put the word "hope" on my heart. Throughout the past year, it has been the word He has continued to speak to me. 

God put hope on my heart in three-fold. He wanted me to truly learn to place my hope in Him. He wanted me to become hopeful that we would be able to conceive. He wanted to remind me to keep sharing my heart, our story & His goodness, because He was wanted to continue to use us to spread His hope to others. 

 In the months leading up to our fertility appointment (after a 3 year break from doctors) I wrestled with fear, doubt & anxiety. I didn't want to jump back into the world of TTC only to find my heart crushed & disappointed again. In those emotional moments, God always met me & softly whispered, "hope."  And so I did. When I became overwhelmed I would remind myself my eternal hope is in Him. I started hoping for what could go right, and less time worrying about what could go wrong. Whenever I heard a story of someone dealing with infertility conceiving, instead of brushing it off as, "well, that's not our situation", I started to find hope from those stories. I began to allow myself to hope this new journey would lead to a pregnancy. 

In May, I had surgery to remove endometriosis. A few weeks later, my doctor cleared us to start trying to conceive again. I found myself feeling more hopeful & excited about trying to conceive than I had been in years. At the same time, doubt & fear fought hard to rise up in my heart & mind. Back in June, before we conceived, I wrote a post about the journey God had taken me on to get to a place where I was genuinely hopeful about conceiving. To read my emotional & raw post, click here

One morning, as I was praying & having a really honest conversation with God about believing for a biological baby, He put Matthew 17:20 on my heart:
"You don't have enough faith," Jesus told them. "I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it would move. Nothing would be impossible." 

Boom. So convicting & just what I needed to hear! That day I made a choice to let go of doubt & step forward in faith. I humbly handed God my tiny mustard seed of faith & believed that He would be faithful to move mountains for us.

The next month, after five years of infertility, we found out we were pregnant! I’ve written about our initial reaction to the pregnancy news here & here
One of the first things I read was that at 4 weeks pregnant, our precious baby was only as big as a poppy seed. Immediately I began to cry as I remembered the verse the Lord had given me. He took my tiny seed of faith & moved big mountains to bring us our third little miracle baby. We are amazed & so grateful! I pray our story will continue to bring hope to those in their own seasons of waiting.  

If you're struggling with hoping & believing for your own miracle, I totally get it. Infertility & adoption are emotional & complex. There are so many valid fears, deep hurts & big questions that come along with the process. 
I want to encourage you today to have that honest conversation with God about where you are in your journey of hope & faith. Ask Him to step in the gap of your unbelief & help you to begin to trust Him again. I don’t know all the ends & outs of your story or what He has planned for you, but I do know walking with Him through the struggles as well as the triumphs will bring healing, hope, peace & joy back into your life. 


Today I encourage each of you to step out in faith today to put your own little mustard seeds of hope & faith in His hands. 

I love looking at the Hope sign hanging up in our home! It is such a powerful & sweet reminder of the journey of faith God has taken us on to add our three precious babies to our family. If you’re interested in your own custom sign or want to order this specific sign, be sure to check out Wandering Hart design on Etsy to order: 

 Pregnancy update: I am 18 weeks pregnant now & baby is doing great. As always, thank you for continuing to follow along & celebrate with our family!

With love,
Tyler 

Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Pregnant: Receiving Our Positive Part 2

If you haven’t already, be sure to read Part 1 here. 
To view our pregnancy announcement click here. For a recap on our entire 5 year journey to grow our family, click here

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On Saturday July 8th, I woke up & took a fourth pregnancy test…positive
Finally it truly hit me that this was happening! As that realization washed over me, joy flooded through me!


Sadly, my joy was quickly replaced by panic & fear. If I was pregnant, why was I still bleeding? All I could think about was something going wrong. After waiting for five years to experience pregnancy, I was not prepared for the roller coaster of emotions & fears I would face once experiencing it. Unfortunately, my fears & feelings wouldn’t subside anytime soon. 

Even after seeing my doctor a couple days later & confirming through blood tests that my HCG was rising, the fear continued. Even after hearing that bleeding can be normal, the worry continued. Day after day I continued to spot, bleed & pass clots. Some days I moved through my days like a robot. Some days the anxiety & fear left me feeling paralyzed yet simultaneously spinning out of control. Some days I was full of hope & faith. I learned to take one day at a time…& also one night at a time, as I was often awake at night watching the hours pass. 

Our family beach trip was such an incredible escape during this time!

Anxiety is a tough beast to fight. I absolutely hated that I was feeling this way. I hated that I couldn’t fully celebrate or truly connect with this baby in the way I longed to. I hated that Cary couldn’t understand how I was feeling. I prayed constantly for the Lord to fill me with peace. Yet every time I went to the bathroom & saw red, a new jolt of fear shot through me. At times, I felt like a failure for not being stronger & more faith-filled. I struggled to feel God’s presence & often felt like He was so silent during this time. At the same time, there were days I knew He was carrying me through. There were moments of crying out to Him in prayer when His peace was evident. I had to choose to believe He was with me, even when I felt so alone.



Being involved in the infertility community has revealed to me just now common miscarriage is. 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. I know that all too often, babies slip away, hearts are broken & dreams crushed. Many around me have suffered the heartbreak & loss of their babies to miscarriage. The thought of losing our baby scared me more than anything ever has before. 

I thankfully dealt with pregnancy symptoms very early on & throughout my first trimester. I say thankfully because each bout of nausea, every bit of painful breast tenderness, every food aversion spoke to me that things were happening as they were supposed to. I literally thanked God each time I threw up. Still, I struggled with deeply allowing myself to believe everything was going to be okay. I went to bed every night holding my stomach & thanking God for giving me another day with our baby. 



I clearly remember my lowest point in those weeks of fear. At six weeks pregnant, after a few days of only having light spotting, the return of red bleeding & clots sent shock waves running through me. That night I laid awake for hours crying & praying as I wondered what was to come. My doctor was concerned as well & asked me to come in for an ultrasound immediately to make sure our baby was still alive & to rule out an ectopic pregnancy. In the shower on the morning of our first ultrasound appointment, I found myself unable to stand as I fell to my knees, crying & shaking uncontrollably as the water washed over me. I begged God to let our little baby hold on & for us to see a heartbeat that day…

Thankfully, as y’all know, this story does have a happy ending. As we sat in the ultrasound room waiting for our answer, a tear slowly slid down my face. Ready or not, we had to face whatever would come next. The screen popped up & before we could hear it, I could see it…our tiny baby’s heartbeat blinking on the screen. It was a surreal & beautiful moment. Cary squeezed my hand, as more tears slid down my face & relief spread through every part of me.

That day, I was able to finally able to take a big step forward in hoping & believing our baby was going to make it. The fear, worry & bleeding continued until week 10. For those of you wondering, they were never able to identify the source of the bleeding. Originally, my doctor thought it was a subchorionic hemorrhage, but they never saw any evidence on the ultrasounds. 
I continued to deal with everything the best I could & tried my best not to let fear steal my joy. I decided I wouldn’t let worry rob me of connecting with my pregnancy, but it wasn’t easy. I started to fight the fear by speaking life over our baby & imagining who he or she would grow to be. I began to find the strength & discipline to take every thought captive. In my mind I began to picture Isabel, Noah & this baby walking…hand in hand in hand. 

A couple of the weeks passed before we saw our sweet baby again on an ultrasound screen. In the meantime, we began sharing our pregnancy news with family & friends. Sharing our miracle helped usher in so much healing & joy! It’s safe to say we shocked pretty much everyone with the news! The reactions were priceless! Many tears were shed & praises to God offered up. We plan to put together a video compilation of the reactions soon because they are just too sweet not to share. 

I am now 14 weeks pregnant, praise God! 

The past month I have been doing much much better. Sharing our pregnancy news publicly was a huge step forward emotionally for me. I have been deeply touched by the response & love we have received since sharing. I am beginning to show & am so excited to watch my budding bump grow! We will be sharing gender in the next 2 weeks! It’s so fun to talk about baby names & make plans for another addition to our family. Cary & I could not be more grateful or amazed to be experiencing this precious miracle! Izzy & Noah love lifting up my shirt to "see the baby" & give the baby kisses...cuteness overload!


So, why share all the messy parts of this journey with you? 
Why not just share the positive, happy parts & keep the not so pretty parts to myself? 
The whole reason I first opened up about our struggles with infertility was to let others know they aren't alone! While it’s not fun to remember or share these struggles, I’ve found that when I share my struggles, there are always others who step forward and say, “me too.” Vulnerability invites those around us to step into healing with us. 

I share because I want you to know that if you are struggling with fear & anxiety, you’re not alone. I know it’s hard, I know it’s scary…I know some days you’re barely making it. But I also want to remind you that you will make it! I want you to know that you aren’t a failure when you experience struggle, doubt, fear or anxiety. On this side of Heaven, we will face many battles. We will fail, we will hurt, we will experience hardship. 

"But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong." ~2 Corinthians 12:9-10 


Let me remind you, the most beautiful thing about being weak is that He is strong. Let the Lord’s strength carry you through the hardest days. There is nothing shameful about coming to Him & asking Him to carry you. In fact, that is what our Father longs for…to be our strength, our hope & our provider through every season of life.

"Then Jesus said, "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest." ~Matthew 11:28 

"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." ~1 Peter 5:7


Breakthrough & victory come when we fix our eyes above our circumstances, on the One who never fails us. When we are filled with His strength, we can face any battle that comes our way. Maybe someone reading needs to be reminded of this truth today, just like I needed to be reminded when I was struggling. 

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For those of you reading who have experienced a miscarriage, my heart hurts deeply for you. I can only begin to imagine the depth of heartbreak you have experienced.  Please know I mourn your loss with you. 

Thank you for following along. I look forward to continuing to share my heart & our story with y'all. We are grateful for the prayers & love so many of you send our way!  

With love,
Tyler 

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Pregnant: Receiving Our Positive Part 1

Hi, y'all! I'm excited to finally kick off a series of posts sharing more about our pregnancy & all that's been on my heart the past couple of months. 

If you missed our pregnancy announcement you can find it here:
To catch up on our entire five year journey to grow our family, click here: Full Circle

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The first week of July was a hard one for me. 
I knew “testing day” was quickly approaching & with it came wave after wave of emotion. I tried to keep my hope in check & not read too much into any "symptoms" I thought I was experiencing. The morning of July 6th, two days before testing day, I woke up nauseous. The hope I had been holding back leapt in my heart. A few hours later, I started bleeding. All those hopes came crashing down as I faced the reality that this month wasn’t “it” for us. 

That evening, I shared on my Instagram (@theadventuresofbabyk - account dedicated to all things infertility, adoption, faith & family) that I wasn’t pregnant & would be attending a Sarah’s Laughter infertility support group meeting that night. The meeting was so wonderful & just what my heart needed! Sitting in a room full of women who understand your struggle is a powerful thing. I left feeling filled up, encouraged & focused on trying again.

Over the next 2 days, I continued to bleed but noticed it was different than usual. I remembered my doctor telling me my cycles would be a little off in the months following my endometriosis surgeries, so I assumed that was what was going on. However, Cary wasn’t convinced! He thought I should go ahead & test anyway, but I resisted. Testing was the LAST thing I wanted to do! It had been 3.5 years since I’d last taken a pregnancy test. In the past, taking a test was a huge trigger for me. I knew God had done so much in my heart over the years, but I still wasn’t sure if I was prepared to face the emotional rollercoaster that ensues after a negative. After giving it some thought, I decided I would go ahead & test, mostly so that we would be able to fully move on.  

I sent Cary out to pick up some pregnancy tests & then it was time for the moment of truth. Cary & I sat together on our bed as we waited for the 3 minute timer to go off. We had been in this position so many times before...
 The alarm went off. Slowly, we walked to the bathroom together, picked up the stick & stared in disbelief at two dark pink lines…
positive. 
Stunned, I looked at Cary…I saw tears in his eyes as he started to laugh. After a moment I heard myself saying, “Wait…what?! This can’t be right. Can it? Oh my gosh… What is happening right now?!” We were both in shock to say the least! After nearly 5 years of infertility, we were holding a positive pregnancy test in our hands for the first time ever

Cary accepted & celebrated that we were pregnant right off the bat, but emotionally, I couldn’t go there yet. I had heard too many stories of false positives. The possibility of this being a false positive scared me to my core. 
I chugged some water & took another test. Positive. 

At this point, I couldn't hold my emotions back anymore! I was shaking, smiling, crying & totally overwhelmed. I’m pretty sure I was near the point of having an out of body experience. Cary & I laid on our bed & let the reality sink in. We smiled, we cried, we hugged & thanked God.



That night we went to bed filled to the brim with emotion. In the middle of the night, I woke up & fear took root in my heart. From 3-5 a.m. I prayed over our baby & asked God to calm my heart & mind. 
Finally at 5 a.m. I got up & took a third test...Positive. 
I sat in the dark on the floor in our bathroom & let the tears flow. I jumped back in bed but laid awake for a couple more hours with my mind racing & heart exploding with emotion…finally, I drifted off. 

As soon as I woke up, I took a 4th test…Positive
Finally it really truly hit me that this.was.real. 

To be continued...
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We have been blown away the all the sweet support & love we have received since sharing our pregnancy news! Thank y'all for celebrating with us & praying for Baby K #3! I am currently 13 weeks pregnant & feeling great. Our baby is developing & growing right on track. We are overwhelmed with gratitude & joy to be experiencing this miracle! 


I'm so glad to finally be re-visting & sharing the details of our pregnancy story with y'all! My next post will cover the days & weeks after we received our big news. A time I had always dreamed would be filled with joy & celebration was instead consumed by fear & anxiety... 
More coming soon!

With love, 
Tyler 

Wednesday, September 6, 2017

Full Circle: Recapping Our Journey to Grow Our Family

Hi friends! Since announcing our pregnancy, I've gotten a lot of messages & questions about our journey to grow our family over the past 5 years. 
I will definitely be sharing all the details soon about my pregnancy & everything that happened leading up to it! I know some of you have been following along for years & others only days, so I also thought it would be helpful to back up a bit & give all a timeline recap of our whole story!

  • First let me throw it back to January of 2009...when Cary & I met for the first time. I know this sounds cheesy, but our story really does begin with a love at first sight type of moment! 
  • We were married in April 2012 & starting trying to conceive about 6 months into our marriage. We were young, healthy & in love...we honestly thought we would get pregnant right away. As the pregnancy tests came back negative month after month, I started to fear something was wrong...
  • December 2013, we went in for testing & received a dual infertility diagnosis. We were referred to a local Reproductive Endocrinologist. This was a heartbreaking & devastating time for us. I felt like my world & all my dreams came crumbling down around me. 
  • January 2014, we started seeing the RE & did two rounds of IUI. We weren't given a lot of information or explanation about the underlying causes of our infertility, in fact, a lot of my concerns were brushed off or not addressed. We were essentially told we had little to no chance of ever conceiving outside of extensive fertility treatment (IVF) 
  • March 2014, God firmly closed the door & our hearts to fertility treatments & opened our hearts to adoption! Adoption had always been a way we envisioned our family growing, but it wasn't something we had planned on pursuing right away. Once God put adoption on our hearts, a passion was ignited inside of us! We knew without a doubt that adoption was the path for us & for the first time in a long time, we felt hopeful & excited about the future of our family. 
  • April 2014 we officially started the adoption process through Faithful Adoption Consultants. I started this blog as a way to share our story & publicly announced our adoption "adventure"  
  • August 2014 our home study was completed & adoption fundraising was well underway. We became officially "active" with FAC, meaning we starting hearing about adoption situations & began to present our profile book to expectant mothers
     
  • November 2014 we were "matched" aka chosen by an expectant mother from Georgia who was due in February 2015. I'll never forget how it felt to receive that phone call & hear the words, "She chose you!" After being matched, we started working closely with Abiding Love Adoptions (with FAC taking a backseat role)
  • December 2014 we met "C" & went with her to an ultrasound appointment where we found out Baby K was a girl! We will never forget that special meeting with C & her family. That experience gave us a glimpse into the beautiful, messy, redemptive relationship of open adoption. 
  • February 12th, 2015 was the most amazing & heartbreakingly beautiful day of our lives. Our precious daughter, Isabel Grace Koch, was born & placed in our arms forever by her courageous birth mom 
  • August 2015, we were loving life as a family of three & over the moon to be parents of our sweet Izzy. God put adoption on our hearts for a second time. We started preparing, saving & fundraising assuming it would take about 2 years before we would be able to adopt again. Even though it was overwhelming to think about tackling another adoption, we knew without a doubt this was how God was going to grow our family for a second time so we stepped out in faith trusting He would open doors when the time came
  • January 2016, After much prayer, I knew in my heart God was going to bring our next baby to us quicker than we expected...I just couldn't see yet how it would be possible! 
  • March 2016, I called a pregnancy crisis home here in Louisiana called Danielle Inn. Our information was passed on to an expectant mother looking for a family for her baby boy. A week later, we found out she'd chosen us to be his parents! (Sadly Danielle Inn had to close down earlier this year due to lack of funds)
  • April 15th 2016, 9 months after God put a second adoption on our hearts, our precious son, Noah Griffin Koch, was born & placed in our arms forever by his brave birth parents. We hired a local adoption attorney with On Point Legal to handle the adoption 
  • Summer of 2016, we were finally getting into a routine with two babies under two! I started to feel the Lord leading us to revisit our fertility efforts. I knew at that point, I was not ready emotionally or spiritually. God had a lot of work to do on my heart before I would be able to face fertility treatment again. I started pressing into Him & revisiting a lot of the emotions I had kept at bay for a long time. I remembered a family friend doctor telling me about NaProTechnology & Creighton Model. As we prayed about moving forward to address our infertility, we started to look into these more natural fertility methods. God gave us peace that this was the direction He was leading us. 
  • Fall & Winter of 2016, We got trained in Creighton Model charting & scheduled an appointment with a NaproTechnology doctor for March 2017. During this time, I worked a lot of my heartache & grief associated with infertility out with the Lord. For the first time in a long time, I started to feel cautiously hopeful about conceiving. 
  • March 2017 after a three year break from infertility doctors, we had our first appointment at the Gianna Center in Covington, Louisiana with Dr. McGlynn. We loved Dr. McGlynn from the start & left the appointment that day with peace, hope & confirmation in our spirits that this was exactly where we were supposed to be.
  • March, April & May of 2017 were consumed by blood draws, ultrasounds, discovering & making a plan to treat all the underlying causes found, managing hormones & getting weekly blood work done on specific days of my cycle, committing to Paleo diet, taking a list of supplements + medicines & undergoing two laparoscopic surgeries to find & remove my endometriosis. Dr. McGlynn worked closely with us & we finally received thorough answers into what was going on in our bodies to cause our infertility. 
  • Early June of 2017, I was finally recovered from my second laparoscopic surgery. We were given the go-ahead to try to conceive that next cycle. We used Creighton Model charting to determine my best fertile days & had a blood test done to confirm ovulation. We tried naturally, started progesterone & then we waited... 
  • July 2017 to our absolute shock, amazement & joy we found ourselves staring at a positive test after 5 years of infertility! Our sweet Baby K #3 is expected to arrive March 2018. We are incredibly grateful & humbled by this blessing! God's timing is incredibly & His ways are perfect. We are forever grateful for the assistance of NaproTechnology & our wonderful doctor! 
Our journey over the past 5 years is not one we would have ever imagined for ourselves. We have been challenged, stretched & changed in our marriage, in our faith & in the way we view family. Our experience with adoption & infertility has forever impacted our lives & who we are as people. By sharing our story, we have built a platform to connect with, minister to & learn from others who are walking similar paths. It has been beautiful to see the Lord bring beauty of ashes & use our story of brokenness for His purposes & glory. We have been supported & loved over these past few years in powerful ways that has brought us to our knees in gratitude & humility. 
We have seen the Lord move mountains to bring each of our babies to us. Three years ago, I was a barren woman with empty arms & an aching heart. Now we have a 2.5 year old, a 17 month old & I am 12 weeks pregnant! We will never take for granted the absolute joy & privilege of being momma & daddy to Izzy, Noah & Baby K #3. We hope & pray our story will continue to bring hope to those waiting on their own miracles babies! 

In the weeks to come, I look forward to continue to share more details & more of my heart with you! As always, thank you for following along & loving our family so well. 

With love,
 Tyler 

Saturday, August 26, 2017

Pregnant!!! Announcing Miracle Baby #3!

Say what?!?! I promise we were just as surprised as you are!!!
 We've been praying, hoping, trying & believing for this baby...but it's still surreal to wrap our minds around the fact that after 5 years of infertility THIS IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING! Thankful, emotional, humbled & so amazed by God's timing & His plan for our family! I will be 11 weeks pregnant tomorrow. We would love prayers for our growing baby & for a healthy pregnancy. Can't wait to meet our sweet Baby K #3 & share this new adventure with y'all! 
Thank you for all of the love, prayers & support over the years. Y'all have lifted me up & encouraged me in some of darkest days & I am forever grateful. It blows my mind that 3.5 years ago when I started sharing our journey to grow our family publicly I still had empty arms & an aching heart. To say that I am amazed at how God has moved over the years to bring us our babies is an understatement! 
While I have been looking forward to sharing this news with y'all, I have also been very emotional over it. I know for those of you still in the wait it's not easy to see these type of announcements. I understand the heaviness & hurt of the wait & the unknowns...I want you to know you are in my heart & always will be. No matter where you are in your own journey, I hope & pray our story will give you HOPE to keep going, keep believing, keep seeking Him.  

It has been very hard keeping this secret! I have so much more to share with y'all. All the juicy details coming soon! 
With love, 
Tyler 

Friday, August 25, 2017

I'd Still Choose You

"Because no matter what, I'd still choose you" 



6 years ago today, Cary got down on one knee & asked me to spend the rest of my life with him. That day was hands down one of the happiest days of my life! 
We never imagined we would face obstacles so soon in our marriage as we tried to grow our family. I'm thankful that God knew & had a plan for us that was bigger, better, harder & more beautiful than we could have dreamed.

I'm thankful he chose me & I chose him & God chose them for us! 




With love,
Tyler 

Monday, August 14, 2017

Carry the Hope of Jesus into the Chaos


Over the past couple of days, my heart has been heavy & burdened over the riots in Charlottesville. As I processed the horrific details, I've struggled to find words. But just because I can't speak as eloquently about this topic as I'd like, doesn't mean I will stand silent. It's crucial for us all to speak up against, call out & condemn racism, hate & evil. We must boldly stand with our brothers & sisters of color, spread the love of Jesus through the way we live our lives & teach our children the beauty of diversity. 
Today in church our pastor did a great job of reminding us that in times of hell on earth, we as Christians are called to carry the hope of Jesus into the chaos. My little family & I choose to continue to spread hope & love in this broken world. We pledge to listen, learn + do our part to end injustice, treat those different than us with love, respect + dignity & shine the light of Christ in dark places.

With love,
Tyler 

Friday, July 14, 2017

Sarah's Laughter Support Groups, Podcast & Hope Narrative Conference

Last week I attended a Sarah's Laughter Infertility Support group meeting for the first time. It was such an encouragement to me & I only wish I'd started going sooner! If you're in the Baton Rouge area & dealing with infertility, please don't continue to struggle alone. Sarah's Laughter offers support groups for infertility, secondary infertility, adoption, pregnancy after infertility, support for men & they even have an online support group for infertility. All info on support groups can be found on the Sarah's Laughter website: http://www.sarahs-laughter.com
I was so excited to finally meet some of my "online friends" in person for the first time at the support group, especially sweet Melissa! 

Back in January Cary & I had opportunity to sit down & record a podcast with Beth & Jason Forbus (the founders of Sarah's Laughter.) On the podcast, we share our story of infertility, adoption & faith. We get really honest about the devastation of infertility, the struggles we walked through as we adopted & what God has done in our hearts over the past 5 years. I shared the link to our podcast months ago on Instagram & Facebook but I wanted to share it here as well. We pray our podcast will be an encouragement to everyone who hears it: 
There are currently 37 podcasts up on the Sarah's Laughter website, all featuring people who have testimonies about infertility, adoption, loss, brokenness, restoration, hope & faith. What an incredibly valuable resource for our community, right?! 
Y'all be sure to check them out:

Sarah's Laughter sponsors a faith-based Infertility, Adoption & Child Loss conference called the Hope Narrative which will be held here in Baton Rouge, LA on September 16th. This conference is for both men & women. Husbands are welcomed & encouraged to attend, but many women will be there without their husbands as well. 
Cary & I are so excited to be a part of this event! We will speaking about adoption together in a breakout session & Cary will also be leading a men's breakout session on infertility & adoption. If you live in Baton Rouge or surrounding areas (Or anywhere really! We are just a plane flight away) & are struggling through infertility, adoption or child loss, I highly encourage you to attend this conference! My faith-filled friend Caroline, blogger, author of In Due Time devotional & founder of Mom's In The Making ministry, is the keynote speaker & I am pumped to finally get to meet her in person! Caroline's blog: http://in-due-time.com


Conference tickets are on sale now for only $49. You can purchase yours here: Hope Narrative Tickets

 I'll also be giving away a conference ticket on my Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/theadventuresofbabyk/ in a few weeks so stay tuned! I know this event is going to be a powerful encouragement to many! 


If you know someone struggling with infertility or walking the rocky road of adoption, please please please pass along these resources to them. This journey is so hard, but having support makes such a difference! 

With love,
Tyler