It's National Infertility Awareness Week. Did you know 1 in 8 couples struggle with infertility?
The two things I would tell someone who is just finding out they are dealing with infertility is you're not alone & God has not forsaken you.
When we started TTC almost 4.5 years ago, I never dreamed we would face infertility. When we were diagnosed 3.5 years ago, I felt like my world caved in around me. I've never felt so hopeless, crushed & alone. The grief & hard emotions that come along with infertility are real & complex. If you know someone struggling with infertility, the best thing you can do for them is listen & be compassionate...acknowledge their pain & emotions, be there for them the best you can by checking in, letting them know you are praying & loving on them any way you can. There's often not much you can say to make things better, but it will mean the world to know they can count on you for prayer, a listening ear & a shoulder to cry on when needed.
I share our story because when I first found out about our infertility, I didn't have anyone to connect with. I didn't know anyone else who was struggling like I was. Once I connected with others who "got it," which mostly happened right here through social media (blogging world, FB & mostly Instagram), things changed me for. Some of the shame & the loneliness began to be lifted. I share so maybe I can offer hope to the ones who are just finding out they have fertility issues...for the women who feel alone, devastated, heartbroken, hopeless...for the couples who are weary of all the waiting & disappointment. I share for me too...because it helps me process my emotions. The support Cary & I have received over the last few years has been beautiful. Having people praying & caring enough to try to understand our journey & emotions has made such a difference for us.
We have been incredibly blessed by our two precious children. Isabel & Noah have brought more joy to our lives than we ever dreamed possible! They are our miracle babies! We are forever grateful for adoption. We desire more children & are open to whatever way the Lord decides to build our family. We are focusing on health & fertility right now, but adoption is never far from our hearts or minds. We know the Lord will lead us as we continue to walk this journey in hope & faith. Thanks to everyone who follows along, prays & offers us words of encouragement. So many of you have impacted our lives in huge ways & we are grateful!
If you're currently walking through infertility, I wish I could give you a hug & listen to your story. I hope you find someone in your life who can offer you support & love during this hard time. I hope you are able to find hope, comfort & strength in your faith. Even though it might not seem like it right now, the Lord is near & His love for you is endless.
To share your story of infertility, raise awareness & connect with others who understand, use the hashtag #niaw on Instagram this week.