Our 1st Adoption Announcement (2014)

Monday, April 14, 2014


Cary and I are thrilled to announce that we have started the process of adoption! It makes it all the more special that we are announcing the news today on our 2 year anniversary! We are incredibly excited and filled with joy about this new direction we feel God leading our family. We decided to start this blog so that we could bring our family and friends along with us on this journey!

Let us start by filling you in on how we came to this decision. Cary and I have always wanted to adopt. Even before we were married adoption was something we were sure God was calling us to. Our plan was to have a few biological children and then adopt as well (we’ve always planned on having a big family!) Early in 2013 Cary and I started trying to get pregnant. After a year of trying to conceive, we were diagnosed with infertility. This was an extremely difficult time for us, and I took it especially hard. I honestly felt like all of my dreams came crashing down around me. The sadness and devastation I felt were indescribable. I felt hopeless, alone and abandoned by God. The one thing I’ve always desired to be is a mom. I don’t have any amazing career plans or passions that I want to devote my life to. I’ve always felt like my calling was to be a mommy to a big family. After being diagnosed with infertility, I felt cheated by God and felt lots of anger, confusion and a great sense of loss for the biological children I have always hoped to have. Pregnancy announcements, pictures of babies and even people just bringing up anything related to fertility in conversation was enough to send me into a fit of tears or worse. I’m so thankful for my close friends and family who prayed for me and hugged me when there weren’t the right words to comfort me. 

After going through a few IUI treatments unsuccessfully, we felt like it was the right time for us to pursue adoption. As soon as we made the decision to seriously look into adoption, I felt an overwhelming sense of peace, joy and purpose come back into my life. This helped confirm in my heart that God was directing our steps towards adoption. Through the very early stages of our adoption process, I felt God start to mend the hole in my heart and giving me a refreshed hope and a new dream for our family. Within the first few days of deciding to pursue adoption we were very blessed to have conversations with people who had adopted before and were in the process of adoption. We received so much encouragement from these conversations and again felt God confirming our desire. Within 2 days we filled out an application with adoption consultants, started our adopted profile book and set up a home study meeting with a local social worker. Things were moving fast and our sense of certainty and excitement was quickly growing! 

We view adoption as a beautiful picture of the gospel. We pray that by adopting a child we will be mirroring God’s great love and his adoption of us as his beloved children. We already feel so much love for our future child. I really believe that God has already used adoption to show me more about His heart and His character. I’m so excited to see what baby God has picked out to join our family! 

Although we are moving forward with adoption and plan to adopt again in the future, we aren’t giving up hope on having biological children. We want to start our family as quickly as possible. Adoption will allow us to follow our desire to start our family and we are so thankful we have this option! I know many people won’t understand our decision to adopt before doing extensive fertility treatment. Basically, we believe that any child we adopt will be just as much “our own” as any biological child we could have. We don’t see adoption as a second choice, we see adoption as a beautiful way for God to provide for our family. We are open to continuing fertility treatment in the future but know that it could take months or years to conceive. And while we hope that we might have a biological child one day, we are also realistic about our diagnosis and realize our dream might not come true. That being said, we believe that God could heal us from our infertility. We would love for those of you following along with our journey to parenthood to pray for revelation about what is wrong in our bodies, doctors who are wise and willing to help us treat our infertility and for complete healing and the ability to conceive and birth biological children. Regardless of what may happen in the future with our infertility diagnosis, we know that God is calling us to start our family now through adoption and we are responding in faith!

Where we are in the process now:
We are still in the beginning stages of adoption. The biggest thing we are working on right now is completing our home study. A home study is conducted by a licensed social worker. The purpose of the home study is to educate, evaluate and prepare us for adoption. The home study consists of 4-5 home visits, extensive background checks, health evaluations, collecting references, as well as paperwork and interviewing. We are about halfway through this process. Once we have completed our home study, we will be approved and one step closer to becoming parents! 
We are also working on researching and brainstorming creative ways to fundraise and finance our adoption. We will go into the financial aspects of adoption in another post! 

How you can pray for us:
Pray that our home study process will continue to go smoothly and that we will be approved quickly and without any complications.
Pray for us as we face questions surrounding our infertility diagnosis and adoption journey. Pray for God to give us the grace and wisdom to answer all questions (even the invasive, rude or insensitive ones) with truth, love and kindness. We want our journey to help educate others on adoption and also to allow others to understand more about God’s amazing love. 
Pray for us as we prepare our hearts and lives for sweet Baby K! We would love for you to join us in praying for our precious little baby, who is most likely just now being formed in his/her’s birth mother’s womb. Please pray for God’s hand to be on our beautiful child in every stage of their development in the womb. Please pray for the birth mother of our baby. Pray that she would care for her body and baby to the very best of her ability. Pray that the Lord would give her an intense love for her baby and that He would help her make wise decisions in every step of her pregnancy. Pray that through her adoption journey she would truly feel the peace, comfort and love of God. Pray for her heart as she makes an adoption plan for her baby, that she would feel confident in her decision to give her child the best life possible. 
Please pray for all of the details of our adoption to fall into place-from the legal aspects, to fundraising, to our housing situation. 

Thank you for joining our adoption adventure! We are so thankful to have the support of our family and friends! Stay tuned for more posts and information on how you can be involved in bringing Baby K home! 

*If you have Instagram go follow @theadventuresofbabyk & @fundraisingforbabyk !

Juno is excited to be a big sister! 
"We're on an adventure to bring home baby K!"

So thankful for 2 amazing years of marriage to the love of my life!

     “The Lord has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy.” -Psalm 126:3

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